It’s quite obvious that almost the entire young adult generation has been given a bad name in our society today.
Here are ten things you need to know before you turn twenty years old if you want to start to turn the tables on this mass conviction.
1. Short-term relationships aren’t okay anymore.
Quite honestly I don’t believe they’re ever okay, but by 20 you should be able to hold onto a relationship for longer than just a couple months. At this point, dating should not just be for fun. There has to be an end goal in mind.
2. You don’t have the time you think you do.
If you think you can keep putting off life to drink and party because “you have your whole life ahead of you,” you’re wrong. If you keep putting off life you’ll never get there, and you’ll regret it.
3. That being said, it’s okay to not have your life completely planned out as long as you’re moving forward.
As many plans as we lay out, life never seems to turn out how we think it will. It’s okay to take a year or two to travel and figure out just what you want to do, I’d actually encourage it. But don’t move backwards, live in the moment but always have a next step.
4. Its time to stop blaming your parents for your problems.
I’m not trying to downplay how much our parents’ parenting can give us issues we will have to sort though and deal with for the rest of our lives. Though, at the end of the day, YOU are the one who needs to sort through that and YOU are the one who needs to overcome that. Blaming your parents won’t help you to do that.
5. Boys… It’s time to be Men.
Right here, right now. This transition is starting to take place later and later in life and you have the opportunity to change that.
6. Don’t argue issues you haven’t researched a background on.
Our culture has become so misinformed in such a variety of issues because we like to argue but we don’t like to listen. Get your facts straight before you feel the need to argue your position.
7. Stop caring what people think about you.
I’m not talking about the unhealthy version where you make less than smart choices and just don’t care what people think. I’m talking about letting what people think about you influence your opinions and your decisions. There’s only one you, don’t become someone else’s clone.
8. Surround yourself with people who will be there for you for a lifetime.
The amount of friends you have doesn’t matter, you can feel alone in a crowd and right at home with just one. What kind of a friend would you feel comfortable with being around your children someday? Look for friends that you could walk through life together, and through every stage of life, they seem to be the perfect fit.
9. Get off your phone.
Okay, I get it, I have an addiction too. EVERYTHING is on that thing. But, if you want to be taken seriously, you need to put it down.
10. What do you want 5-10 years down the road?
Kids? Marriage? Are you living your life in an effort to put yourself in a position to get that? The more you live like the person you want to be, the faster you’ll get there.